Dear Abby: One of my friends seems to have taken an interest in my wife. Should I tell him to back off?

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for 30 years. Over the past few years, a male friend of ours (also married) has taken an interest in my wife. He clearly finds her attractive, as most men do, but I’m trying to figure out what his intentions are.

He comments on her and her body, so when he tries to hide his crush on her, he doesn’t do a very good job. I know my wife finds him attractive too, but when I mention his name she shrugs and says they’re just friends. He has a lovely wife and seems to be a devoted husband and father to his adult children.

I know my wife loves me, but his frequent comments worry me. I don’t always give my wife the attention she deserves, so should I do my best to prevent someone else from doing it?

Should I be concerned that this man’s intentions are more than “just being friendly” and saying something? — SUSPECT IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR SUSPECT: You have the right to tell this friend that his comments about your wife’s body are inappropriate and that you want them stopped.

You also have the right to become a more attentive spouse. I’m sure your wife would appreciate it.

I do NOT think it is necessary to ask this man if his “intentions are more than just friendly.” You weren’t born yesterday and you already know the answer is yes.

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was created by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.